Sunday, August 18, 2013

Friends

I've always been a social person and really did not have trouble making friends in the past. When I got married and moved here, my ex did not have much of a social circle and I seemed to struggle with making friends. I got to know some people at church and work but for the most part, I didn't do things with them outside of church/work. I kept up with some of my oldest and best friends but they do not live here and visits were few and far between. Since the divorce and moving into my apartment, I have only had one local friend with whom I do things (an old co-worker).

A few weeks ago I met a woman at the pool, Michelle. We've talked several times and seemed to click. Today at the pool, she introduced me to three other women. We are all in our 40's/early 50's, divorced, no children at home and not from Goose Creek. All of them moved here from out of state while married or after their divorces. I ended up being in the pool for three hours. Time flew. We all talked and shared and because of some commonalities in our backgrounds, could understand what the others are going through. They call themselves the "Lost Girls" for fun. I asked to join as I am lost, too. We all laughed over that. They have plans to have a girls night out next Saturday and invited me to go. The plan is to go somewhere downtown, or in MP (maybe Shem Creek).

Now the lack of confidence has set in. Did I talk to much? Reveal too much? Did they feel like they had to invite me to go next Saturday because it had come up in conversation? I hate this constant feeling of self doubt. Michelle and I exchanged cell numbers so I can text her when I find out the name of the jazz club in MP my counselor mentioned to me one time. I see him Wednesday and I'm sure he will boost my morale as he always does. I really hope that through these women I can form new friendships. That's something I would truly welcome.

1 comment:

  1. I wish you wouldn't worry so much, but you must come by it honestly. I do the same thing. Be strong.

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